Assuming he was really intelligent (both book and street) but just has a hard time conveying that in an academic sense. Has a good job and is able to support himself and live in relative comfort.
In these cases would lack of a degree STILL be a deal breaker?
1. Don't have high paying jobs (largely art and social science majors)
2. Aren't very intelligent or deep (just good at memorizing things).
I wonder why is it a deal breaker? Is it a matter of status? Is it a matter of him being lazy? Or is it moreso a matter of "if we get married in 20 years and he happens to lose his job, will he be able to find a new one"?
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Yes, I would. It's not a deal breaker. A college degree alone proves nothing to me. Some of the most intelligent and learned people I've met in my life don't have letters after their names, so I don't think the fact that you manage to make it through college and get your degree proves intelligence. You may have more information and/or knowledge of certain subjects, but that's about it. Being able to support yourself and live well is essential but not necessarily dependent on having a college degree. As you said in your update, many with college degrees aren't able to find exceptional jobs in their fields, so their college degree has not helped them.
That doesn't mean that an education isn't important. However, I believe that an education can be had without having to attend a university. A desire to better yourself, to learn from other great minds by reading and studying on your own for the pure joy of learning can often leave you with more and deeper knowledge and understanding than you would ever obtain within the confines of college. With that being said, one of the best points of college is the ability to discuss and share ideas with others, to help and encourage one another to learn, and to have guidance with regard to those things that push or test your understanding. While that may be easier in a college setting, it is not the only way and frequently those in college don't take advantage of those opportunities. Any education, whether obtained at a university or through your own devices is essential. Intelligence and the desire to better yourself matters to me, not the degree.1