I feel it's the case for me. I'm 25 and I've only been on one date in my entire life, and we only went out for a week before she decided she liked girls all of a sudden.
Every girl I've approached ever has rejected me, if I ever give a girl my number she never calls, and if I ever get one from a girl she never answers. Forget being approached, no one has ever come to me... ever. Never been to prom or any dances, no one would go with me.
I recently tried online dating, and once again, I get totally ignored or they go as far as to deactivate their accounts. No joke, there have been at least 4 girls I've messaged on dating sites who went to close their accounts the next day.
The thing is, I don't think I'm that bad of a guy. A bit of a shut in maybe, but I'm not totally hideous, gross, I'm hygienic, I'm a nice enough person, and yet I seem to repel girls at a near 100% success rate.
What could possibly be wrong with me? Am I just that unlucky?
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Don't say that about yourself, you've just had a bad run. How many girls are we talking about? More than 10? In what time frame, a year, couple years, or your whole life? Because the more you approach and ask out, the better your chances of a yes are.
The first thing is a lot of girls won't call you if you give them your number, so just get theirs and give them a call.
You also need to change the way you see yourself, because it sounds like these rejections are really affecting your self-esteem - which is understandable, but you might be unconsciously displaying those negative feelings about yourself, and girls are getting put off by it. You need to be confident and sure of yourself, because that puts people at ease and they feel more inclined to give you a chance.
So if you don't have that, fake it till you make it. Look people straight in the eyes, don't slouch or look at the ground, have an easy smile, master your nerves, and when you go up to a girl think of it in the sense that you're just going up to her because she seems cute and friendly and you want to get to know her, no big deal. Don't go out looking for a girlfriend, or act like she would be doing you a great favor if she said yes. No, you're a great guy with a lot to offer, and you'd like it if she said yes, but it's not the end of the world if she says no. That's the mindset you should have (and it's the one I have), because not only is it more attractive since it's not desperate, but also rejections won't wear you down as much.
Try places other than a dating site for a while, like friends of your friends, acquaintances, girls you meet at events, classes you take, even the bar scene. Make sure you take care of your appearance, dress well, and just overall give a good impression. It's really important not to be a homebody, you have to get out there.1