I met this girl a couple of weeks ago and we really hit it off. We had a couple of informal "coffee dates" which went really well. We text nearly everyday, but it is always I that starts the conversation, and she has NEVER initiated one text convo. She always replies to my texts pretty quickly, and tries to keep the conversation going, but I sometimes feel like she's not giving me much to talk about either. She's even sent me single ":)" before when the conversation was dying.
I have heard from many mutual friend that she does like me, but there is a problem. We go to school together, but school is now over and I have moved out of state for training and won't return to school until 2014, and she lives hundreds of miles away.
My question is, now that all we can really do is text/call, what am I doing wrong? She will never text first, is that a problem? Should I not text her for a while and see if she texts me back at all?
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First rule: Guys tend to be expected to initiate. I just told my guy this and he honestly does usually initiate, even if it's just to comment about the weather. A girl initiating ultimately becomes tagged as "needy" (read "desperate and undesirable").
Second Rule: Kill the convo before it dies. "I have to go now" -- vague but clearly outlining that you have something to do -- "It was great chatting with you. To be continued."
Third Rule: I tell my guy that one call is worth fifty texts. JUST CALL HER. This way you have a better sense of what's going on. It's a nice surprise for a girl these days. The guy calls. They chat, etc.
Fourth Rule: If you start lagging in your texts she will presume you're no longer interested. Unless you clearly state that you're busy with training/etc. and can't text except at certain times, then it's okay to lag a bit.1