Sometimes I just can't help it, when I text or message a guy I get all anxious when they haven't messaged me back.
How can I prevent myself from becoming this way?
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You could always try to put some rules for yourself.
For instance, when you're anxious about the lack of answers :
There could be so many reasons for not answering right away ! If you don't really know the guy, you have to try to see the texting habits he has. Is he always hanging on his phones, texting others ? If so, there's no need to push further for answers. He definitively saw your text, but for some reason he doesn't want or he can't answer right away. If he never checks his phone, never remember to charge it, you just have to wait.
Either way, once you know his usual texting habits, you'll be able to realize if there's a sudden switch. If he used to answer right away, but hasn't answered for quite a while without any explanation, then you can give him some space. Eventually, after a few days without answers, a simple "is everything alright ?" text doesn't seem too pushy to me. He could be busy working through a rough week after all.
If you're worried he hasn't received your text at all, check your phone parameters and ask for acknowledgement of receipts.
That's just for the texting example, but you see what I mean.
You have to pinpoint the situations where the clingy part shows itself, and be rational about those situations. Draw some guidelines when you're not feeling anxious/clingy, so that you can follow them once you start being anxious/clingy without stressing out and come out as a clingy woman.
Hope this helps :)0