would you agree that if your goal is to find a serious relationship that could lead to marriage, it is dumb to date people you KNOW are wrong for you long term?
i did this when I was younger (dated guys who were definitely wrong for me both because they didn't treat me how I deserved AND they were someone I could not see a future with) because it was more fun than being alone.
but now that I am older I am serious about settling down and I'm in my prime for the next few years so I don't want to waste it dating guys that I know will not yield in a relationship.
yeah it's not so fun or easy not having someone to give me attention or whatever, but it's easy to form an emotional bond with the wrong person and I don't want to waste my time anymore.
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Yeah you should get with guys that are ready, the ones that you know mean it when they tell you all they want to do is make you happy. Work on developing a friendship rather than focusing on the sexual attraction. How well you get a long as friends is the key to knowing how compatible you really are and how close you can get. If he knows how to be a good best friend to you then he will make you very happy, sexual attraction just builds from there :) For example, at the begining of my relationship I told my guy that I was afraid our relationship was more physical than emotional because I felt I had issues keeping up a conversation with him, so from then on he just waited for me to make sexual advancements and he would pick up on moments of slience and would bring up the most random subjects. 8 months later and our relationship is much stronger, but since leaving school for the summer we are long distance, and just the other night we were texting, I felt I had ran out of conversation, told him so and asked if he wanted to keep talk tomorrow. What does he do? He ignores that text complete and texts me random questions XD a couple of minutes after that text he decides to call me and we talk on the phone for another hour. He remembered when situations like that made me unhappy and so did it to make me happy. Its little things like that you can pick up on and you know how he feels so genuine! :) good luck!1