My ex girlfriend who dumped me was cold to me the last time I saw her because she heard I started dating again (hardly dating actually, just socializing with female friends and a few casual dates). I didn't date again until months after she dumped me and I failed to get her back. At the time, she said she wanted to remain friends and after 2 month of NC, we ran into each other and it was cordial enough, if not awkward.
But then a month later, she went total ice on me. I later found out she was asking around (rather than me directly) if I was dating anyone and was convinced that I was (even though I am not). I have also been getting better over the breakup and some of my friends think that doesn't sit well with her. If I didn't hurt her and she broke up with me simply because she didn't love me, but supposedly still cared enough for me to be a friend, why can't she simply be happy that I am bouncing back and moving on?
Now, I will probably see her at a party in a few weeks. She will most likely be cold again? Should I smile nonetheless and give a quick hello to show that I am the mature, gracious one? Or I am being too weak or too nice (she actually told one of my friends that I was "too nice"), and I should therefore ignore her completely if I pass her by? I hate to be rude to anyone, but she almost forcing this kind of reaction.
Thanks, Ladies and guys too, if you have any perspective.
The question is now whether I should wave and smile if we make eye contact, or ignore.
If I do the former, do I appear weak, as though I am willing to say hi no matter how poorly she treats me.
If I do the latter, am I stooping to her level?
I guess I am completely perplexed by the turn of events: she dumps me, says she wants to remain friends. I am depressed for awhile, then I get better, go on a few dates, and she gets all pissed and cold at me. All the time, I am friendly and gracious to both her and her friends (her best friend actually is OK with me).
Does this make any sense whatsoever to anyone out there?
Since her last chilly reception and given the fact that she thinks I am dating someone when I am not, I am concerned she will have something else up her sleeve to make me feel bad. She may show up with a dude and be all over him in front of me.
I feel better when I don't see or hear of her. But, then my friends may be disappointed.
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Just move on.0