My ex dumped months ago because she said she never loved. In fairness, I took her for granted and didn't tell her I loved her after about a year of dating.
When she broke up with me, I then realized what I lost and poured my heart to her in a handwritten letter, then email, and finally in person. She still rejected me.
I then went NC for about 2 months. We saw each other 2 events with mutual friends. While the encounters were awkward, they were cordial. I was glad that we could at least be civil, even though deep down I wanted her back. I just couldn't bring myself to chase her after I already tried and she had said some hurtful things to me during the breakup.
A month went by and when I saw her again, she was not cordial at all, but cold and rude. I was stunned and hurt. I later found out tha she had been asking around if I was dating someone and was convinced that I was. In fact, I was seen by her friends with a female friend and went on some casual dates. Nothing serious.
Was I supposed to call her again after our initial post breakup friendly encounter? Is being friendly to an ex they way a woman signals that she wants him to call her back? Did I misread the signs? I know she is attractive and is used to getting hit on a lot (even, she told me, by married ex boyfriends), but she dumped me! Why is she upset now that I didn't call or that I started dating again, assuming those are the reasons she went cold? I am perplexed.
Would most women think I was being creepy? I did not approach her and want nothing from her at this point but peace and no hard feelings.
Would it have been better to ignore her completely.
I feel I did the right thing, but I am curious as to the women's point of view. Thanks.