for real, if you figure out that you aren't going to be dating someone you've been talking to, do you stop talking to them and stop being nice to them?
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I'd like to think I'm the same to you whether I'm trying to date you or not. By which I mean nice, or whatever. When I'm trying to date someone I just tell her how I feel. That's it. If she's not interested, I'll back off a little, and I won't tell her again. I won't disappear though, and I'm not going to turn into some kind of jerk, just because it's not going to happen. Similarly, if I'm not into a girl, it's not like I'm going to be mean to her.
As I said, I'd like to think I'm the same guy whether I like a girl or not. Personally, I think the only kinds of guys who are nice to you if they're trying to date you are not actually nice. I think that should go without saying. It's fair to call the kinds of guys you're describing, "douche bags" and equally fair to say they're not worth your time, or tears.4