I've been single all my life, I've recently developed a crush on this guy in my program. I've been contemplating whether or not I want to approach him and ask for a date. Honestly, I know how I'd handle it if he rejected me, but I don't know what I'd do if he said yes.
I think what it is is that I'd rather be rejected up front than for him to get to know me and then reject me. Is it normal to feel this way? Should I approach him? Any words of encouragement?
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I can't say its abnormal for you to feel that way. I'm sure you have your reasons, but imo I don't think you should ask him for a date...especially not right off the bat.
I think you should show him that your interested...giving him a compliment (but don't overdo it..just give the compliment, preferably a flirty one and see what he does with it) or you could talk to him about simple things, get a convo going and once you guys start to know each other a little bit more then you could flirt/tease him. guys will get the picture soon and if he likes you enough he will ask you for your number and hopefully a date will follow.
Also, .. you don't have to feel bad if a guy gets to know you and things don't work out. Its just a part of life. It happens to people all the time. Doesnt necessarily mean something is wrong with u..it just means you and that particular guy wasn't a good match. it's a simple as that. don't let that affect your self esteem or anything. I'm sure you'd be a great prize for another guy.
anyways, all the best.1