My husband stayed up until 1am while I was asleep texting a drunk female coworker at a party. The texts were light flirting and her begging him to come over. I found the texts the next morning because he left his text screen open and I was checking the time. I didn't think too much of the texts and he went to work. When he got home that night he was telling me about a male friend who was at the party that sent him a funny text. He showed me the text but I noticed that he had erased his conversation with the female coworker. I asked nonchalant question of whether he got texted from anyone else that night. He said "no". I have always felt weird about their friendship because he never tells me when they have hung out or when she shows up were he is. I feel like he is hiding something that he says is harmless. What does it all mean?
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DISCLAIMER: I HAVE A SUSPICIOUS MIND.
I think it means that there is some sketchy sh*t going on, and it's being done behind your back, and you are being lied to. I base my opinion on what you posted. And I think you know there is something rotten, otherwise I don't think you'd have come here and posted what you did.
I don't like the mixture of drunk bitches who work with and want to hang out with husbands.
I don't like that he lied to you about not getting texts from her. (he said he didn't get any other texts, right?) People only lie about sh*t they are ashamed of doing OR to avoid punishment for something they did. What does that tell you? If it wasn't a big deal, shouldn't he have mentioned Drunk Bitch Texts? *I* would have, if there was nothing weird going on. Light flirting is one thing- begging a married co-worker to come hang out when you KNOW your ass is drunk is quite another thing.
I am not suggesting you leave him in a huff. But I am STRONGLY suggesting you either continue to gather information as it comes available, OR you confront your husband directly. I don't know you or your husband, obviously. I don't know if he's a shafty bastard or not- you have to judge that yourself. But I'd keep my eyes peeled.1