I finally worked up the courage to join a dating site. I filled out a few questions, talked to a few guys. One guy I really liked talking to. We were both into video games and talked a lot for about one week. We were both afraid of rushing into things and shared the same fears and doubts of meeting each other. He was a very genuine guy, wasn't judgmental, wasn't looking for just sex, he really wanted to get to know me. Or so I thought.
We finally meet a week later and of course it was a little awkward. Silent moments here and there, but we grabbed a bite to eat and he paid. He was very sweet and we laughed and shared a few stories together. It was getting really quiet sitting at the table so he suggested we go for a drive. I felt a lot more comfortable talking to him while he was driving. I guess cause we didn't have to be face to face, less pressure. There were still odd silent moments but I felt like we both knew it was just how first dates work. He kept saying "I think were doing pretty well for a first date" and he kept asking me if I was having a good time and I reassured him I was. I really liked just spending time with him and slowly getting to know him. After about an hour of driving he said "We've been driving for awhile, I think that's enough time to spend for a first date right?" and I said yeah even though I didn't really want it to end. He drove me home and we sat in the driveway, I stayed in the car a few moments waiting to see if he'd say something but it was just kind of awkward nodding and saying goodbye. I said well I'll see you later, and he said k.
That was the last I heard of him. No text later on in the night to tell me if he had a good time, or if he wanted to try date #2 yet. I decided to text him and told him I still had fun depsite the awkwardness and that I'd like to get to know him a bit more if he was still interested. He never answered me. I really thought we had a connection when we were talking online, and the awkwardness in person would surely go away if we continued hanging out. Did I do anything wrong to push him away? He didn't seem like he was having a bad time, and he kept saying he was trying to think of things to ask me. If he was so interested, why hasn't he said anything back? I feel so useless. What could I have done wrong in person that would turn him away, when online we couldn't get enough of each other. Do guys expect first dates to be a lot better than that? Was it all a big waste of time for him?
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You did nothing wrong, it just sounds like there was no connection. Online dating is full of socially awkward people. Honestly, people stereotypes people who like video games with social awkwardness because they are always by themself playing a video game and they have a very limited amount of experience with face to face interaction. I met one girl off craigslist who said she refused to respond to any guy that mentions video games in their profile and while I find that extreme I can see why.
My recommendation is that you meet people asap without much talking online. Anyone can lie in their profiles and the amount of time invested that girls tend to make talking online just makes the situation worse for them when it doesn't work out because they put so much effort into fake interactions just to find out that the guy was not adding up to the talking that happened online. I personally recommend 5 messages tops and if no effort to proceed with a meet then scratch them. "I want to get to know you better" is what meeting in person is for and girls mistaken that for chatting online and then guys assume she just wants attention and nothing more.
Another recommendation is that you meet for something simple like coffee first and then if you like them, have an activity in mind so you two are doing something and not just sitting in silence.0