When I first meet a guy and maybe I Haven't really gone out with him yet or anything, just talking, sometimes I lose interest. Now I used to just be straight up and tell the guy I'm not interested but then they would give me all this attitude or try harder. So then I would just stop responding to texts or messages and I would still sometimes get attitude about how I ignored the guy. Ugh I can't win! If I've gone out with a guy I definitely let him know how I feel but if we are just talking online or something I feel like I don't owe all this explanation. Is there any etiquette on this?
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I don't know for other guys, but for me it doesn't matter either way. I've gotten pretty good at reading intent. The guys giving you lip are probably the ones that haven't gotten used to being rejected.
Even the best looking and well off guys in the world get rejected 60% of the time. The rest of us have to expect an 8/10 or 9/10 failure rate, if for no other reason than because more than half of the people you meet will be committed to somebody else when you approach them.
I can appreciate a straight forward honest stance, so long as it's polite. I don't like it when she's rude, but I don't fuss about it. The way I see it, that's a pretty clear sign that we wouldn't have gotten along well had she not rejected me anyway.
Somewhat related, a short story (because I can):
I had interest in a girl I knew, and she told me when we were camping with some friends flat out "Hey, I just want to let you know, I'm not looking to sleep with you. We can be friends, but I don't want to lead you on." I was a little disappointed, but I appreciated her honesty. I'm like "Oh.. well damnit, that sucks. Thanks for telling me though." *smile* and so I stopped flirting and just kept being friendly... She hopped into my tent while I was sleeping later. We had a great time, and messed around for the next four months or so. Never "quite" understood why that happened, but I was grateful :-D0