I've been dating a new guy for a month now. We met online and everything was going amazing. Anyway the problem is the serious lack of affection. At first I was shy so not much happened, but now we've had sex 6 times it just isn't improving. The first time we had sex we cuddled afterward while watching a movie, although the sex was over far too quickly and I was far from satisfied I didn't mind too much. 5 times later and we haven't cuddled after sex and I am still far from satisfied and he only ever kisses me when he wants it to lead into sex. There is no public displays of affection unless we have been drinking and then we might walk hand in hand. The times we have had sex has been alright but it's always over as soon as he's done and he enjoys the sex and yeah it's nice for me but nothing overly exciting. We never cuddle on his sofa now or anything and in public it doesn't seem like we're together. In fact every time we sit and watch a movie he sits there cuddling his dog, which didn't bother me at first but it's getting to the point that I'm starting to get pretty frustrated by it all. Every morning when I stay there his dog gets invited up into his bed and that doesn't bother me so much but the dog gets so much love and attention and I feel like I get so little. I've spoke to him before about it and he says he isn't really an affectionate person and he'd try to be more affectionate, but honestly he hugged me in public last week.. that was it. Everywhere we go together, the dog comes too, everything we do involves the dog. I wouldn't mind so much If I felt valued but I just feel like a bloody booty call.
I've met all his family, and we're "Facebook official." not that means sod all but never mind. This is just really starting to get me down because I really like him and it's unusual for me to really feel this way. Seriously it's just such a lack of affection, no spooning, no nothing. Once the sex is over, so is the kisses. I don't know what to do really. Last night we were down the pub and for some reason the term love came up into the conversation and he said that I told him I loved him once during sex, but I know for a fact I didn't. I told him that I made that mistake a few years ago and have never said that since and he was sure I said it, and he said he ignored it when it happened, but I know for a fact I didn't say it. It's really pissing me off and I have no one to talk too about it and aaaaaarg stressful
ive called things off