We had a truly amazing first date, followed by about a week of awesome conversation and things progressing fast. My confusion started with this...a day that started as usual (what had been normal for us for about 3 weeks) except this one started a little differently in a good way. She text me first that day, very early. Not the first time she was first to speak but it was usually me because I get to work earlier. It was a good text of course and all day was normal, we chatted back and forth like every day before, all good stuff. Last message from her was around 5ish, nothing bad of course. From that point she was silent. I sent a few, nothing much. One was saying, hope everything is OK, simply because I usually heard something from her in the evenings, ya know? I know she's busy, she's a mom so I didn't hound her of course. Finally I sent one before bed telling her goodnight, I was turning in. She replied later but I didn't see it until the next morning. She said, not puposely avoiding you, we just got home, busy night. Kinda short and distant because she always said goodnight. The next day she did talk a little but very distant. Of course I tried to figure out what's wrong. Finally a long response basically giving me reasons it would be difficult for anyone to date her. Sounded like she was trying to convince me I shouldn't want to. After that, silence, doesn't respond. She was really into me, I know that. Had never met anyone like me, told me all the great things she noticed. She was intensely attracted to me (her words), proved by the way the evening progressed. You can't fake chemisrty, we definitely had it. Of course I've been at this long enough to know how to read her body language and signals, there was no doubting she was all in. Both of us early 30s and attractive by the way. I'm not shy or awkward about physical stuff, I timed the first kiss perfectly, no hesitation or fumbling. This was after dinner and a couple drinks, neither of us tipsy by any means. More great conversation at a beautiful park at a downtown waterfall. Left to take her home. When we got to her place, intense "making out". She stopped it because it was obvious sex was gonna happen and was gonna happen quickly. She had great difficulty stopping, didn't want to. I was glad she did, I was testing her in a way. She's actually a good girl, doesn't sleep around but not a prude either. She's not the type to screw with guy's heads just to boost her ego either, I've had some experience with those too lol. I've actually known her for years, not a stranger on a first date by any means.
So what's the deal ladies? Did she just kinda freak because things were going great, possibly progressing too quickly? I've sent a few messages since then just letting her know where I stand but asking for nothing. I know she's listening. I'm no quitter if I see potential so I'm not giving up. Giving her space tho, for sure. Happy to give more details if needed. Thanks!
Most Helpful Girl
Ladies are very... umm... well. The thing is, there could be tons of reasons why she's doing this. Maybe she's trying to push you away to see if you are really into it or as you said, things are going to fast.The list thing with reasons why you shouldn't date her - I do that a lot. It kinda is a mechanism to see if you would run, the first chance you get. The key is to stick by her. You don't have to be the nagging type, where she has to file a restraining order, but even if she doesn't reply to your messages or whatnot, just remind her that you are there for her, whatever she's going through. Remind her that you love/like her and stuff like that. You also have to remember that she's a mom, and she has to think about not only herself but her child(ren).0