I hear a lot of guys on here complaining about how hard online dating is for men. Obviously I imagine men tend to be the pursuers which is what normally happens offline as well. Is it really worse for men? Maybe because so many people on this site are closer to 21 than 30+ the site is biased. I read that on a girls early twenties she gets the most attention but once a girl is over 26 they no longer get more attention than the average male (still a little hard to believe). Supposedly at 40 something men get twice as many messages. If you look at the paid sites like e harmony and chemistry there are close to twice as many women as men. The only site I saw that had more men was plenty of fish. Are the men complaining on here just 18-24 year olds?
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" Supposedly at 40 something men get twice as many messages."
That hasn't been my experience, as a 40 year old.
"If you look at the paid sites like e harmony and chemistry there are close to twice as many women as men."
Yes, but consider that the men are the ones doing the approaching. In the online world, just as the real world, the women do f*** all initiating.
Even if there's 1000 women and only 100 men say, statistically each guy will send out something like 5 opening emails to a woman in the upper half of the population.
That means that on average (even in this extreme scenario) every girl in the top 50% of the population gets one opening email.
In the real world, the numbers are nowhere near this biased, and women get a metric f***ton of opening emails. Men get none, and as a consequence of the amount of opening emails, reply to about 10% of them.1