In the past..I thought I was no good at picking up girls...
I am always told.. Good body/Good looks/personality /job I am a catch bla bla bla..
I don't take any of those serious and shrug it off quick...
I only relized this has become a major problem.. Because I
clicked.. and woke up..
2 years single... one year no...well...Effection of any kind ...
I recently turn down 2 girls I normally would break a leg , to be with...
I stuck to my guns and said "No , you dated a friend of mine" which
I still think was the best choice...
That wasn't the problem...
Problem was other girls who showed clear signs of wanting me..
It came down to this:
I don't want to share my space
I don't want to share my time
and I have a HUGE issue of regection..
So much so I rather not go out , and be by myself...
This is ...I gathered was due to the bad expereince I had with
another girl.. who pretty much destroyed and betrayed me..
And after 2 years.. I still can't get totally over it...
Now I am stuck in this position.. Stay alone and in control..
and pretty lonely and bored...
Or take the plunge and let it all happen again...
I literally see myself living alone for the rest of my life with my dog.
And not seeing to much wrong with it...
I rather not feel that feeling of betrayal or hurt again..
I have lost trust within everyone but myself...
I tried this online dating.. I got a lot of emails and request from around
8 girls.. I Haven't answered one .. then deleted my account.
sad case I know...lol
- I need to snap out of this and get out and dateVote A
- Staying alone and in control is safer..Vote B
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You're far from alone with these experiences, in case you feel exceptional. l
But consider, your dog has only so long to live. True, you can always get another dog, but it will never be the same.
Wouldn't you rather be with someone you could spend your WHOLE life with? And who could really share in your life the way no dog ever can?
Sure you risk rejection, but you're a whole lot smarter and more mature now. It's less likely to happen, and you're better prepared for it should a relationship terminate. The break-up probably would never be as terrible as what you endured already.
That's why you sensibly dropped the online girls. Most likely they bring a lot of baggage, and they are strangers, and you'd wind up with more reasons to stay with your dog
GEt out there and join some clubs for people with your interests. Dog owners, for example!
By the time you're 30, your choices have dwindled, and if you haven't found a partner, most people carryry bitterness, resentment, and general emotional scars from unfortunate relationships that ended with a lot of pain and hostility.
You can find someone to share the past pain with, talk about it, and you will understand each other. Trust me.
Don't 'date; women, analyze and communicate with them in 'non-romantic' situations.1