I've seen this in several answers lately and would like in-depth answers. I've read several posts where guys said that a girl had to be open to dating and approachable. And that there had to be some sexual tension, something that made it possible to more than just friends.
I've always been “one of the guys” and its a trap I'd like to get out of. I'm comfortable around guys, can approach them, usually have common interests, easy to be around, etc but getting a date is next to impossible. So how do I make it clear that I would be interested in dating/relationships? That I'm not just a friend?
I've updated my closet a little bit to more feminine clothes and my hair is no longer super short. I don't wear makeup (allergic to a lot of makeup products). I know I have to be more feminine but its tough, I work in a male-dominated industry and the joke at home is that I'm the son my parents never had. My confidence and self-esteem are in reasonably shape. I feel like my biggest roadblocks when it comes to getting a date is that most of the guys around me don't see me as a girl for dating. Like they know I'm a girl but they don't recognize it.
Can anyone offer any helpful suggestions?
Never been in a relationship, still a virgin (been kissed once but that's it), rarely go out to bars/nightclubs, only have a drink or two (usually the designated driver anyway) and I'm 20. Not sure if that's important but it is what it is.
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The possibility is always there! And you don't need any sort of 'sexual tension.
You just need to be an interesting person, with your own unabashed personality. If you're pushed around by the winds of fashion and conventional rules of behavior, you aren't likely to have much romance in your life.
In other words, you gotta BE a romantic person, to some extent, before anyone is going to want to GET romantic with you!0
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