So here's the deal, I'm a girl, I'm 22, never had a boyfriend never been kissed so you can safely say I'm a virgin. And I had a friend who tried to set me up once but it didn't go well and I seem to only get hit on by creeps and old men :/ It's like they think I have no standards. At all. Everybody tells me that it's great that I haven't dated and that I'm not missing out on anything and that it's sweet that I'm still a virgin. And honestly it's just frustrating. I mean I feel like I'm missing out on being a young adult, dating a few guys before I settle down, because I've been told since high school I'm gonna date one guy and marry him. And half the time I feel like I'm never gonna meet anyone. So what do I need to do? And please don't even bother with the typical answers like have you tried online dating? yes and all I get are creeps and guys that want a booty call. Or you'll find someone someday, you just have to be patient. I think I have up till this point. and on a side note I cannot flirt...like at all, and when guys(yes the creepy ones) flirt with me I just think they are being annoying and I am not aware that they were flirting till someone tells me. Any advice would be grateful. Thank You, and God bless.
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The key is meeting guys. That's the hardest part.
You need to put yourself in a position which allows you to meet new people. Guys aren't just going to fall at your feet, and the ones you know already are (I'm assuming) friends/people you're not interested in in that way.
Meeting guys through friends is generally the easiest way to go about it. Not set p in a date way, but maybe you're hanging out with some friends and they bring along some of their work friends (guys and girls) or things like that. Or when of your friends are going out with some of their friends you don't know, tag along.
Maybe get a new hobby. O a part time job if you don't have one ect. Things like that. Lots of people say they can't flirt, but honestly flirting isn't really necessary. What is important is the ability to meet and hang out with new people who you don't know very well confidently. Then it becomes so so much easier to meet new people, new guys, almost anywhere.
Also, you maybe need to be a little more forceful and pro-active about things. If you want something to happen and it's not, sometimes you have to take it upon yourself to make the first move on someone you do like if they're not making the move on you.0