All I read about on here is confusion caused by communication that is solely reliant upon text messaging. Why is everybody so averse to using the phone? I use SMS all the time; I understand how it's very useful, but not as a primary medium for conversation. I can't help but feel that many people use it as a barrier of protection so they don't have to fully express themselves or reveal how inarticulate they are. Fair?
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I don't like texting or calling, but if it's a choice between the two, I'd choose texting.
Calling someone is an immediate demand of their time. What if I'm in the middle of something? What if I like talking to you for a little bit, but don't have an excuse to hang up the phone after I'm done with the conversation? I feel rude lying and saying that I need to go do something. Most people I know that call tend to want to talk for hours and hours, often about themselves, just to fill the time. I like catching up and all, but I don't have the time to sit around and heat up my ear with the phone listening to people jabber on and on.
If all you're doing is calling me up to arrange a time to hang out, great. But usually, it only starts with an excuse to call and turns into a full blown conversation. I'd be very happy to give you my full attention and talk for hours in person when we hang out and are doing something fun. I can plan ahead and give myself as big a slot of time as you want to relax and catch up. But if you are going to put my entire day on hold and prevent me from getting things done, that's annoying. I can't plan for that kind of interruption.
Therefore, especially if a person has a history of hijacking my time by wanting greeting every one of my "I need to go" statements with "ok, ohh before you go, one more thing"s, I will NOT pick up the phone. It's rude to do that, yet everybodyyyy seems to think it's ok.
Texting is much better, because I feel free to answer your individual questions as I have time/inclination, but can stop responding whenever I feel like it.
Speaking face to face is my primary medium for conversation. There is no substitute, so I'd rather take texting...the thing that is the less demanding time-waster of the two.0