wondering what people think- I'm seeing a guy who has done ALL the initiatiating. Of course I do call or text him back and make sure to be friendly and sound interested, and so far its going pretty good with this method. But I'm wondering what goes on in a mans mind when you encounter a woman like this? Does it make you miss her or make you wonder why she doesn't initiate any calls?
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I don't just "wonder" why she doesn't initiate calls. I mean, how the f*** you I know why she doesn't initiate calls? The only thing I do, the only thing I can do, is to assume that she's not "as interested" in me "as I am" in her.
The proxy I use for how interested someone is, is the quality of effort they make in trying to either express their interest or give their affection to the other person. If I conclude that she's not that interested in me, and she turns around and yells, "but wait! I sent you smoke signals! SMOKE SIGNALS! At 4 o'clock in the morning. It's not like I waited until 5am. What do you mean I made no effort?" I can comfortably turn around and point back to the word "QUALITY."
If this is what our whole relationship is going to be like, I better abandon ship or get off the train at the next stop, instead of stick around for that wonderful journey between now and Break-Up Central.0