So I met this guy on an online dating site. We communicated for 5 months prior to meeting because he is in the Navy and was away. Our first date was amazing and we connected on every level. He was sick, and the next day I actually went over to his place with some homemade chicken soup. He was very touched by that I could tell, and the next day he invited me over for dinner and a movie. It was actually the most amazing night of my life. He said that I was the sweetest girl he had ever met and what he had been searching for his entire life. Long story short, we only dated for three weeks. I did something that made him think I was crazy and I guess he decided he didn't want to take the risk of adding drama to his life. I went to his house after work and texting him to meet on the way because I needed to talk to him because things were a little weird between us the day before (sexually; I just wasn't ready). When I got there and saw his car parked, I called him a few times with no answer. Then I got really pissed and kept calling him and texting him non-stop, like only an insane person would. When he finally texted back he said that he had been asleep. He said he woke up to see all of my craziness. He refused to meet me. Said it was over and not to call him again. "You're sweet, but too much too soon", those were his words. It wasn't like me to act like I did and I am not at all a crazy or dramatic girl. But I've been under a lot of personal stress. I really tried to make this work because I could have sworn he was the one for me. I actually still believe that he is. In trying to fix things I've made them worse. I began sending him messages on that dating site we first started talking on (respecting the fact that he told me not to call him anymore), one to apologize and ask for another chance to forget and start over...a few days later I dropped the L-bomb, thinking that might make a difference if he still had feelings for me. I told him that I knew it would be hard for him to comprehend that I could feel that way about him after we had practically just met, so I would sent him reasons why, one for every day until he agreed to meet and talk, that I wasn't going to give up. He would read my messages (at the same time every day, almost as if he waited for them) but would never reply, and after day 4 he deleted or hid his profile. It was a stupid idea and I don't know what I was thinking or how I expected him to react.
I've been going through hell, hating myself everyday for ruining what we had. People think that I should just get over it because if it ended early on it just wasn't meant to be. But I can't help the way I feel about him. And I am sure that he initially had very strong feelings for me as well. He is currently away on work for the next two months, but will be back (we live in the same city) and I do still have his number. Is there ANY way I can get him to look past this and give us another chance?
I've been going through hell, hating myself everyday for ruining what we had. People think that I should just get over it because if it ended early on it just wasn't meant to be. But I can't help the way I feel about him. And I am sure that he initially had very strong feelings for me as well. He is currently away on work for the next two months, but will be back (we live in the same city) and I do still have his number. Is there ANY way I can get him to look past this and give us another chance?
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