I'm a guy who has never had a girlfriend (and is a virgin but that is outside the scope of the present discussion) so after finally deciding to do something about it, I have started seriously chatting to two girls (who are as of yet mutually unaware of each others' existence).
Anyway I went on a date with one of them (despite asking the other one out as well and giving her an equal chance) and we really clicked and have been chatting quite a bit and quite seriously. Also been chatting with the other one but not quite as much.
As the one I dated I've been getting on really well with and we've spoken of both wanting something serious/long term, I think its fair to all parties involved that I kind of tell the other one that I can't be with her in that way / things aren't going to head in a relationship direction.
My question is: how do I let her down easily, so as to not hurt her feelings and more importantly, keep her as a backup girl in case this other one doesn't work out (because I do really like her)?
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There is no way to let someone down easy, rejection hurts every time. The best way to do it though is just be honest and nice. None of that 'It's not you it's me' bullcrap, just say "I've really enjoyed getting to know you but right now I'm interested in dating other people". That's it, that is all that is required. She doesn't need to know it's ONE other girl, just that you are interested in looking elsewhere. As far as keeping her around for a 'backup girl', don't be a d***. If you don't like her enough to choose her now, then let her find someone who WILL put her first. You would not like it if a female kept you around for a back up so show the same common courtesy.0