A little back story here... Met a girl through an online dating website. We went on a casual dinner date, then a walk in the park. It was your standard 1st date kinda thing. Except when we kissed, it was pretty amazing for both of us. We ended up talking a lot more and making out for a couple of hours in the parking lot. Not exactly classy, but we were really into each other. Spent at least 6 hours together on that date before we finally parted.
We text a lot from then on. We're both very vocal about how attracted we are to each other. She tells me often how "hot" I am and such. We talk about general life stuff, everything seems to click between us perfectly in every department. So we meet up to watch a fireworks show on the holiday. We have a little romantic night laying in the grass, making out and talking. we decide to pick up a bottle of wine and head back to my place. We have a glass of wine and talk and things start getting hot. We ended up doing dirty things and even had to go buy more protection from the store! She spends the night with me at my place. I take her back to her car around 10am next morning.
later that day I text her what a great time I had. She says she did too and even adds "you're so hot" in that text. So I text her that I'm looking for a place for us to stay at the beach. -We had already made plans to have a romantic night at the beach before that. (we were really into each other lol) Then out of the blue she texts back and says she's got to be honest with me, that she didn't really feel that sexual "spark." And insinuated we should probably call off the beach plans.. I had already bought her a lavender rose to surprise her with too... Needless to say I was shocked... She goes on to say that it's probably because she doesn't know me well enough and she doesn't usually go that fast with someone. She says she still wants to date but she just wants to take it slow and get to know each other better. So yeah I felt like a total idiot for having bought her a rose and everything, and talk about a blow to my ego. But I take it with a grain of salt and take her word for it.
We then decide to have a more casual date. But the next day she asks me if I want to go to the lake with her family. I say what the hell. I pick her up and we go to the lake. I meet her mom and uncle. We talk a lot, and act as if the awkward sex discussion never happened. We kiss a lot and hold hand and I take her to a nice restaurant for dinner. When I dropped her off, we talked and she smiled a lot and we kissed for like 5 minutes.
So question is... What does that whole sexual spark thing really mean? Is it common for a girl to regret getting too physical too early and just try to slow it down? Should I be worried? She really, really seems into me, and I her. She says she's addicted to kissing me and all this kind of stuff... Is she like, trying to see what kind of guy I really am or what? Why would she still be interested if there was no bedroom "spark"
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ignore what the first anonymous guy said, it's not "just a line" and girls don't immediately consult a gaggle of friends to act as their relationship jury let them condemn her actions. She obviously really likes you, but it is very possible things weren't working for her sexually the first time, even if she gave you positive fed back at first, sex is different for girls, she wouldn't have told you that if she did not really mean it.
don't start panicking and over analyzing, she hasn't gone cold on you, introducing you to family shows she really likes you just relax for now and wait for the signs that she's ready to try again.1