i have gone on a few dates with her.
last 2 times I met her friends.
every time I have initiated the texts to meet and has said yes.
she has initiated texts a handful of times after I have told her to 'contact me'
she is going on a vacation back home for a few days.
im sure I can call or text and she will reply but I feel she should initiate some of the communication.
who should do it more? should I wait it out?
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My experience: When the relationship starts, I do the initiative. Once relationship has momentum, who initiates is irrelevant.
But if I was doing 90% of the initiative, I'd quickly begin to feel I'm being tolerated, not liked, and I'd consider talking about it.
I'd talk about it only if I was ready to hear: "I'm not that into you."
If I wasn't ready to hear that, I wouldn't talk about it, but I would conclude I like her more than she likes me, and the power structure of the relationship would reflect that.
Now I don't like situations where I like the girl more than she likes me. So I would use the time she was away to look for a woman who liked me. Then I could play harder to get with the first girl; sometimes that can turn a situation-sometimes it just ends it.