i waited till I was married to have sex... my husband has been with other women before.. its like everyone I know has been doing it at a young age. but I never wanted to be used by a male so I waited I'm not ugly I'm very attractive not sounding like I love my self. but I feel like guys won't even appriciate a virgin considering sleeping around is lets say fashion lol.. my husband had a onenight stand with this girl before we dated and he kept in touch with her on fb so I use to see how they use to flirt.. it just upsets me that he could have liked a whore and not appriciated I waited till marriage. he says he does but my heart say he would of dated that hoe if she was in the same country.. he even said she's a cool chick that's why they stayed friends.he had the onenight stand overseas and kept in touch till we dated then delered her.. its been 3 years now but I still can't get over her I look at her Facebook and she is pretty I do t know what is wrong with me. I think it affects me cos he had a onenight stand with her and kept in touch with her and she is really pretty. then you have me who has waited for marriage and feels like I waited for nothing cos in my head I think he would of dated that hoe if she was in the same country. he says he's not dumb to date a hoe and he oviously married me I know but why is my head so f***ed uppp why can't I get over her? this? I don't bring it up cos we married in that but am I just jelous that he was with a reall pretty girl and she is a whore where I don't feel appriciated that I was a virgin..this is a thing I keep inside of me I do t bring it up he would just get pissed off at me for bringing up stupied stuff for but I just want to ask would a guy date a hoe over a virgin?
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The problem here is that you believe a woman's worth resides in her vagina. You continually call this other woman a "whore" and a "hoe" without even knowing her. You feel like you should be viewed as superior to her because you remained a virgin. You've tied a value to sex that not everyone shares, and additionally, you tied YOUR own value to your virginity. And then you married someone who presumably does not share your views on these things.
You hate this woman because you're jealous. But try to think of it rationally: What reason do you have to hate this woman, whom you have never met before? She met a single guy and decided to have sex with him. And your husband decided to have sex with her. She didn't make him do it. You're projecting your hurt/anger on her, but she hasn't done anything to deserve it.
Should you be mad at your husband? No. He didn't know that he was going to meet, fall and love, and marry you when he decided to have sex with this other woman. Further, it's not a requirement that he share your views on sex. You knew that he had a one night stand, but you chose to marry him anyway. That was your choice.
Regardless of your husband's sexual history, he loves you and wants to spend his life with you. I suppose your choices are to stop dwelling on it and learn to be happy with what you have with your husband, or change your views on sex/virginity.2