I have been seeing a great guy for the past 3 weeks... We get along so well and have so much in common , are supper attracted to each other, he loves my dog, he takes me out to nice dinners and he chooses to spend his most valuable free time with me (and we end every date with him asking me out for a future date). We both haven't been exclusively dating each other (which I'm not fully use to). I found out that he was suppose to go on a date with a girl I know and I think he's divorced (he doesn't know that I figured that part out)... I confronted him about the girl I know and he was understanding and canceled that date for me... But now I know he's still having first dates with new women witch bothers me a little (my going out with other guys was because they asked me out and they were mostly guys I've dated prior, I wasn't looking and reject most guys who ask me out)... He told me that he likes me a lot and he will wait to have sex when I'm ready, but I know that I'll only enjoy it if we're exclusive (I haven't told him why I'm waiting). I can tell I'm his first pick girl but how do I get a guy who's recently single to want to be exclusive with me? We live in a very populated area where most women won't make a guy wait, is my waiting for sex realistic or will that eventually push him away? Do guys mostly wait till after sex to decide if they want a relationship?
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You can't make him want to be exclusive; he has to want that himself. Three weeks isn't very long, and it sounds like you two are enjoying each others' company, so just keep seeing him and enjoying your dates together. He'll let you know when he's ready to make a move sexually; when he does, just tell him something like, "Not until we're in a committed relationship." I have the same standard for myself, so there's nothing wrong with communicating that expectation to him.1