Guys: How do you act if you are nervous on a date?
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Usually if I'm nervous, it is because I'm too attached to an outcome, i.e., intimacy in a short time.
So I try remind myself of the disadvantages of attachment. I think "I'm exagerating the benefits of getting what I want, I'm ignoring the disadvantages of getting what I want. I'm putting presure on myself that will cause me to lose grace."
I try to change the focus to something that I'm sure I can gain, for example, I think "Whatever happens on this date, I'll get more practice being a host, I'll get better at dating, I'll understand how this seduction thing works better."
I attend to my breathing to make it deeper, slower. I stretch to relax my muscles. I try to get a break to calm my emotions, i.e., washroom.1