I am officially the last person in my family (including close cousins) and circle of friends who has never dated, been in a relationship or even had sex. Now it's got me thinking, why and how did I end up in this position? I'm 24 and even those who are much younger than me (even by 7-10 years) have been more successful with the opposite sex than I.
Sure, I'm shy and awkward and socially anxious so that definitely factors into it for sure. But I know people with the same personality traits as I that still manage to get somewhere. And I have put myself out there but it just hasn't happened for me.
Could there be more complex and deep-rooted reasons as to why such a person isn't successful in the dating game? I'm talking about things beyond shyness and lack of confidence etc.
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You're not alone. I'm 24 years old as well and have never even held hands with a girl. Like you, I'm shy and socially anxious, though I have gotten much better about that over the years, but still I get no positive reactions from women. I thought that maybe I was just ugly, so I put my picture on Hot or Not a few years back to see, and I got an 8.4 average, so I can't be that bad looking, yet I can't say that I've ever even seen a girl check me out, let alone attempt to flirt with me. Every girl I've asked out or told I liked over the years has either turned me down or told me that they only saw me as a friend.
I once read an article about why nice guys never get the girl, while douches have girls crawling all over them, and that is that those guys exude confidence. I've talked to women about this on here and on other places and what I found is that a very large number of women say that confidence is one of the most important traits they look for in a boyfriend. So I've tried to be confident, but still no luck. So I've come to the conclusion that I just haven't found my perfect match yet, or that I'm just not meant to ever date or get married.2