So I'm 18 and I'm dating a guy who is 33. We've been going out for almost a year and he is amazing. he's the sweetest guy and everything I could ever want in a guy. I myself was very hesitant about us dating but the more I got to know him the harder it was to let go. he's my best friend and I have never felt more comfortable being myself with anyone else. I know I'm young but I am very mature for my age and that's not just me saying that. He also looks like he's about 25 too so people that see us together never seem to notice that he's 15 years older. Anyways the reason I'm on here is because we have kind of kept our relationship a secret for a while because we werent sure what people would think and we wanted to make sure it wasn't just a little fling we had and it was something real. We love each other and our age doesn't bother us but we don't want to lose friends or family over this and I guess I'm just scared. So what does everyone think. Is our age difference too much?
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i'm in a similar situation , like a girl who is around your age but I'm 29 but look younger so I don't think anyone would notice there was much of an age difference . people focus too much on age some times , should be more focused on compatibility and if the relationship works . its normal for girls to date older guys but I admit many do not have a 10 year age difference but it shouldn't really matter if the relationship works
He hasn't settled down yet for a reason. Maybe he is leftovers?
All the good people take each other early on, you know.
Extenuating circumstances exist, like if he was taken for 10+ years and his wife/or longstanding Girlfriend died in a tragic car accident and he was suddenly thrust back into the single world due to no fault of his own.
15 years is not a big deal. But it would be easier to accpet if you were both older. You 30, for example and him 45. My concerns are more for him: you're young and you're going to change. That does not mean you will fall out of love, but you might.
it would make me feel weird but I would still be their friend.
love is blind but as long as everyone is mature about it I don't see any issues as long as he's not your teacher or anything. I suggest sitting down with your parents and have a convercation with them about what's been going on and how he makes you feel.
I have a crush on a girl who's 21 and now I'm not so worried about the crush, thanks for your question.
Yes, it is just saying that. I think that's pretty bad. Both of you should knock it off. Yes the age difference is too much and you're setting yourselves up for a lot of isolation from same age couples.
As long as he really likes you and doesn't just want a super young girlfriend because he's afraid to grow up. A lot of older guys who date younger girls are immature and superficial. Sometimes you just click with someone, though.