She's upset now because her 14 year old boyfriend dumped her for not having sex with him (and they've only been dating for a month). She thinks no other guy would want to date her because she's flat chested, has a flat butt, and abstinent (you know like the purity ring thing). I don't know exactly what to say to her. I don't want to say something stupid and cause her to sleep around for 'love'.
Thank you guys much for the advice! Now I have a new problem...
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Your cousin is smart for not having sex with him. It's only been a month, he's clearly just a douche interested in her vagina, and she's way too young for sex. No REAL guy will mind if she's flat chested (and she's 12, she'll grow more -_-) or anything about her butt. A guy who loves her will love her for her personality (which, hell, even that's not fully developed and likely won't be for many more years).
She shouldn't sleep around, she shouldn't just date casually, but she needs more confidence in herself and she needs to not even take dating at her age so seriously. Don't go too far, but don't think you've found the "LOVE OF MY LIFE FOR EVER AND EVER!" at that age. That's just not logical. Most guys at that age are all hormones at that point and haven't grown up either. She needs to focus on school and save dating, serious dating, for later in her life.0