I'm 20 and I've been very shy all my life so I used to get scared when guys asked me out and I would say no. Now I'm at the age where I actually do want to date and have been out with a couple of guys, but I have gotten so scared of things turning serious that I run away. Part of the reason is that people keep telling me I'm a "keeper" and that the first serious relationship I get into will be my one and only. This really scares me because now I'm even more afraid of dating. Because I've always been so shy, I've held myself back from having fun and being social, so a part of me just wants to be single and enjoy hanging out with friends and flirting with guys, just having fun.
But I am also friends with a guy who has made it obvious he has feelings for me and who I feel the same way about. If I was dating for marriage right now, I would date him because he is one of the nicest guys I've ever known and he wants a serious relationship. But I'm afraid of dating one person and never dating multiple guys to make sure that he is the one for me. I know several other guys who are also nice and who I could see myself with too.
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I don't think you 'need' to date multiple guys if you have deep feelings for someone. The idea that you have even brought this up leads me to believe that you aren't that serious about the guy in question who you say you 'have feelings' for. If you both like each other, then go and date, and if it doesn't work out - you can at least say you tried. Judging from your question, I wouldn't say you have any intention of 'settling down' so to speak, so you will have to decide whether you want to potentially hurt the guy who cares deeply for you, or if you want to forget going down that path completely and meet other guys socially.
Only you know what is in your heart, and we cannot decide for you. Sometimes you just have to go with your impulses to a degree - but always do it with conscientiousness - and don't try and mess guys around. They have feelings too! =]
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