I am talking to this college football player and we have hung out a couple of times. The first time we hung out we had sex and the next day he text me saying "I like you a lot." We hung out again and the same thing happen but we haven't went out anywhere. I'm confused if I'm becoming more of a friends with benefits or could we actually date in the future?
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Put the whole sex argument aside for a moment. The main focus is you wanting to start dating in a more traditional manner. If you like the sex, why stop. If you want to slow it down, tell him.
Since you want to date, TELL him. "Hey, how would you like to go get dinner sometime?" or more forward, ask him directly what he means by "I like you a lot". Right now it means he enjoys the sex. Twice hanging out, twice in the sack, that's golden. I'd like any girl a lot who I had a fun time with but that doesn't mean I had a bigger connection.
Ask him what he thinks of Dating. Would he like to go somewhere, do some activity.
If he is willing (or better yet, excited) to go do something date-like with you, then BAM! you're dating. If instead, he prefers to go back to your/his place and get naked, then you know his thoughts also.
You can test this by proposing a date which ends up with no possibility of sex afterward. Like a lunch date between work shifts or before work/school etc. Or meeting for brunch on a weekend before you have plans to hang out with some other friends of yours.
Best of luck, and ignore anyone who says you're easy for having sex so quick. If you want it, go for it. Just understand that what you think and he think from it could be different. So talk.0