I'm such a late bloomer 22 and not even kissed. On top of that I need to loose 30 lbs to be at a good weight for me. I'm kind of tall so the weight balances out and I only look "a little overweight" according to a very blunt guy friend of mine.
However, I've been on dates from pof all first dates so a total of 4 with four different guys. They ALL rejected me and were jerks on the date even though I talked to them via text or phone and they had seen my pics. I don't know what the hell is wrong with me.
Here's a tid bit of what these guys said during the date, and they were all different guys, so something is wrong with me.
-"When are you meeting your friend" (while looking at the watch for the second time) - 2 guys did this
- After I talked about a random creep msging me to become his boss on pof the guy I was on my first date ever really with replies "Ya you should take him up on his offer"
- "You try to get intouch with your high school good friend and over a two hour coffee you find out you have nothing in common its pointless" (we were having coffee for 2 hrs at the point when he said it)
-"See ya later" - 3 guys said this
-(shakes hand) before and after the date
Yeah so before my last date which was about 3 weeks ago I was so into working out and I have acne too even that improved. Now I've started eating junk again, its hard for me to loose weight with thryoid but now I've really stopped caring. I feel like no guy ever wants to be with me and loosing 10-15 lbs isn't going to make a difference and in order to loose even that much weight I have to be veryyyyy disciplined because of my medical condition.
One of my friends who pretty much just dates online has success and tbh I think I'm better looking than her. The last guy she went on date with recently basically told her how he wanted to be with her longterm and told her to delete her dating profile because she doesn't need the other guys! Meanwhile I repel guys.
I've tried so damn hard. Read dating books, went online, asked for friends to be set-up (apparently none of their guy friends are single or are much older). No guy friggin wants me!
On top of that me and my "best friend" broke up because she constantly flaked this year so we got into a huge fight and he blamed me even though she was the one at fault. None of this is motivating me to workout like I used to.
I don't know what to do or just give up. Can anyone relate to me?
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It sounds to me like none of these guys were interesed after meeting you in person, and one of the reasons I have problems with online dating personally is everything is based upon a visual and a self written summary. Sometimes there's just no attraction and no connection after meeting in person.
I think you're striking out for two reasons. 1. You're picking the wrong guys. These guys are obviously more interested in looks and are probably quite shallow, or are interested in the typically one thing women get tons of email about on dating sites: sex.
2. Something turned them off. Attitude, stories, personal habits you can't control? not your fault and not someone you want anyway. If they don't like you it's not going to work. Rejection happens a lot you should just keep trying. Internet dating is like playing roulette with a pistol sometimes.
Don't give up if you're serious, On another note a lot of times when I quit looking I usually met someone shortly after. But don't give up for yourself. Especially don't give up because of some guy who rejected you.0