She met first boyfriend on fb then the next one on pof. Now she met someone off of another dating site which is paid but she got her money refuned because she only used the trial. Anyways she met John and first date he was like how he wants to be with her longterm, cuddled with her and then kissed her the first date. The next date they went back into the guy's dorm room (she doesn't go to the college or anything) and they made out. He's from out of town and studying here and is going back to new york for a few weeks and she said they'll talk about their relationship when he comes back. Literally its her 4th first date from online and 3 of them were instant boyfriends. And later this week she's seeing Rick another guy she met offline.
Meanwhile I'm waiting for my first kiss at 23 and don't have dating experience except for the four or five guys I met online and all first dates they rejected me painfully.
I think I'm even better looking than this girl...but that's just my opinion. I'm smart I'm doing my master and possibly a phd in the future. I don't get it, why the hell can't I get a like that I feel a connection or spark with.
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I don't know you. So these are just possibilities.
It's possible you're not good looking and you just think you're good looking. Or maybe you don't come across as very intelligent. Or maybe you come across as intelligent, but the guys who you go on these first dates with don't want that (I would say almost all people want to date someone of roughly the same intelligence level).
Most likely, though, you and your friend do different things in your attempts to do online dating. I've done online dating myself, and I would say, 90% or more of the online profiles I came across told me very little about the girl. I would say half were truly terrible: maybe just a pic, or a couple of lines about how she likes 'shopping' and 'travelling', etc. As a girl, you don't need charm/confidence. What you do need, if you want to find a serious relationship through online dating, is to present a very clear picture of who you are and what you want. You complain that the guys you meet reject you on that first date. Other girls complain that the only messages they receive are asking for sex, basically. I would say the cause is pretty much the same. It sounds like these guys your friend has met are smitten with her. They wouldn't be like that if they hadn't already known before meeting her what to expect. You need to think about what you can offer and how best to show that off in order to get the kind of guy you want. If you just become more aware of how you're presenting yourself online, you will become much more successful, because, as I said, there isn't much good competition (I'm not saying those girls are low-quality necessarily, but most of their profiles certainly are).0
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