You always hear about how easy it is for women to get dates, etc. but I don't have that expirence. I've never had a boyfriend and I'm 20 years old, I hate the whole club scene and would never do that, but how else do I meet a good guy?
I never get approached, I even put my pic up on a dating site b.c I thought maybe I'm not attractive, but I got lots of responses from good looking guys
so I don't know, how come I never get approached? Not at my university, mall, beach, etc. Where can I go to meet a nice guy?
I'm so frustrated
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Do you live in a culture where guys aren't supposed to approach girls during the daytime?
I venture to guess that, that's the case.
I live in a culture like that and I too am not a club going person.
But I have approached a few girls, a total of three.
Two because I got the gut feeling that they really liked me and wanted me to approach them badly; so it was a combination of my gut feeling and their body language.
But the third one was a girl I had also seen in my college and she never once gave me any impression that she wanted me to approach her; but she was and is gorgeous looking - but once when I was studing in my study hall she came in and this time had two female friends (I had always seen her alone before) and she started sending out signals like crazy; even had her friend walk behind her so the friend could observe me if I was checking out the girl that was sending the signals; and once the girl walked by me by herself and looked into my eyes for a few seconds, which she had never done before.
I approached her eventually and talked to her a little, and in front of her friends, but she was such a nervous wreck that I thought I was bothering her and even that I had misread the signals (which, though, I don't think) ...don't know how I'm gonna handle the situation during the next semester.
But if your not willing to approach a guy yourself (meaning being the first to talk to him), then your best bet is to send out a sh!t load of signals, and even have a friend of yours observe the guy to see if he is checking you out. And then you'll have to cross your fingers, and if he finally approaches (no guarantee - I'm very introverted and extremely shy, so approaching the third girl was a big step out of my comfort zone) then please, please, please, don't be nervous and make him feel like he's welcome.1