I'm not complaining, I'm actually wondering what appeals to women when they date an a**hole. The a**hole will call her every derogatory term in the book and give her a black eye, but she still dates him. I kind of don't see the logic in this. Please don't be rude, this is just curious query that I was wondering about.
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You're referring to abusive men as a**holes here? In that scenario the abuse starts a mental and verbal. The physical usually comes once they have their feet under the table e.g marriage, pregnancy, time. By the time he hits her he has brain washed her to believe that he loves her immensely but that nobody else ever could. That she is such a pathetic excuse of a person that he is almost a saint to not only put up with her but to love her. She should really know just how lucky she is to have him. (The funny thing is these guys are incapable of feeling love). He has removed her from her support network. Those he can't get rid of so easily he has made her belief that they are the ones manipulating her and will hurt her to get what they want. She has nowhere to turn, she has nothing without him, he's her world, she is nothing without him. For those few that are brave enough to leave it's even harder to rebuild a life than to stay. You're starting from worse than nothing. It takes years to reverse the psychological damage and you do it alone after losing your closest friends.
Of course it's not logical. I'm sure most of the women who find themselves in this situation, at one time or another, made some broad statement about how she'd never put up with it and how she's baffled by the women who do.6