I'm a girl who does not find I easy to be attracted to just any guy, which is why I don't try to fill out my time with just anyone for the heck of it. Over the past 9 years, I was only REALLY attracted to 3 guys (one of my major crushes is ongoing).
How many people out there are like me?
I'm surrounded by people who go out with every guy that ask them out. and guys that break up with one girl and get together with another right away.
- I need to always be with someone, so I break up with someone and get with someone else right away.Vote A
- Poll resultsVote B
- I only enjoy dating people I really like.Vote C
- I don't get involved just with anyone for the heck of it.Vote D
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I'm a lot closer to your end of the spectrum. Relationships should mean something other than "not being alone". If other people want to get together for the heck of it, good for them. I don't agree with that principle but it's their lives and they can deal with the consequences.
What's sad about it is how some people treat relationships like a game of musical chairs. When the music stops they dash for the nearest chair and cling onto it like the last lifeboat on the Titanic. It doesn't matter how cheap and uncomfortable the chair is, all that matters is that in those waning seconds separating partnership from momentary solitude, that chair is a glorified throne. What's wrong with that? They are allowing random outside forces dictate their lives and ultimately their happiness.
The right mindset to have (and it's the mindset I currently have embraced) is that it's not a game. I can move when I want to move, dance when I want to dance, and choose a chair when I damn well feel like sitting down.1