So I've been interested in this guy for a while. I knew him in high school and had sort of a crush on him, and it was obvious he had one on me too. Anyway, nothing ever came of it and he ended up getting married to someone else and having kids. Quite a while goes by and she ends up leaving him, and apparently he still had somewhat of a crush on me because he asked a mutual friend about me and we ended up going out on a date. It seemed to go pretty well, we were both nervous at first but things loosened up as the night went on and we ended up kissing a couple times. We were out late and he didn't seem to ever want to take me home. He kissed me at my door and got my number, then said he'd really like to go out again soon.
Well after that, he texted me to give me his number and say he had a great time. I told him I did too and then I ended up hearing nothing from him for a while. I chalked it up to him maybe not wanting to date so soon after the failed marriage and figured if he changed his mind he'd get in touch.
Fast forward a few months and a mutual friend has a cookout. He attends and brings his new "girlfriend". Now, this man is very mature and well put together. He raises his children as a single dad and holds himself with respect. His new girlfriend pops pills, parties all the time and is very crude and clingy. They broke up once and she posted on his Facebook multiple times that he needed to pick up his phone and they were meant to be and she would drive off of a bridge if he didn't call her. This is all after about a month of dating. She also posts on Facebook about her bj skills and drug habits. I also don't want to sound shallow, but she isn't very pretty to look at either. I only mention that because her personality seems to suck.
Anyway what I want to know is why would he blow me off, a girl he's liked for so long and who is respectable and attractive, for a crude immature girl who is a bad influence on his kids? Did I do something wrong to mess this up? This is a huge blow to the ego considering I've liked this guy for such a long time and thought he liked me too. Especially compared to someone who treats him like that.
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There could be a multitude of reasons why he chose her. My guess is, he chose her because she had sex with him soon after they met and blew his socks off with her "skills." As a result, he felt more of a connection with her, which misled him to believe she was the better choice for him.
In addition, If he was in a state of vulnerability at the time in which he chose her, the factor that she seems to need and depend on him may have been more appealing to him than choosing a independent, attractive woman such as yourself. In this case, he may have felt more needed by her.
Whatever the reason which resulted in him dating her, it's his loss. That's how you should look at it.