I've gone on two dates with a woman who's a few years older than me. First date happened about 6 wks ago. It was brief but ended with a nice kiss. I had to be out of town for 4 wks, so we could only keep in touch via texts and online for weeks. Second date happened 5 days ago. It went pretty well, and we made out a lot throughout the evening. No sex. Two days later, we briefly hung out at her place in the afternoon and cuddled a bit. Still, no sex. Don't get me wrong; sex isn't the only thing I am after. I see her as my potential girlfriend. She seems to like me as well, but I can't fully gauge her interest level because we still haven't had sex yet. I have no problem waiting, but it is something I need in order to see how much she wants me.
She let me know that we can't hang out for the next 10 days or so because an out-of-state friend is visiting her. Even though I'm very curious about this "friend," I haven't asked her anything about him/her. I don't wanna seem desperate. Also, I wanna give her some room so that she can take some time to evaluate what we have going on right now. We haven't spoken since three days ago. For now, I won't call or text her first. I am sure she'll contact me if she misses me. I just wanna keep escalating the sexual tension between me and her. Am I going about it the right way? As someone who's never been in a serious relationship, I am asking you guys for opinions. Thanks.
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i had one date with my boyfriend and then went away for 3 weeks. I didn't think he'd keep in contact but he text me every day, asking me out in advance the day I got back from hold, kind of sweet. I would never have text him first, never. Nothing to do with him its just I've had a lot of bad experience with that. If she has had bad experience she won't text you.
If a guy doesn't text me I'm old enough to assume and be okay with him not liking me. I don't sit there for ages thinking about him. At the end of the day its fresh, youve only been on 2 dates, you have to show HER how interested you are in order for her to let you in.
Also don't depend so much on sex, with girls its different, I didn't have sex with my boyfriend for a while because I wanted to make sure he was genuinely interested in me first.
Hope this helps, good luck0