I have been talking to this guy for a couple of months now on and off. He seemed like he was really into me...then he disappeared for a month, then recently called me again...said he was in a car accident and he lost my number as he does not memorize numbers that is why he has a cell phone. He only said he remembered where I worked at and left about 4 messages for me to call him...which I thought was weird. So I called and received his voice mail, left him a message...he called me about 4 to 5 times then I called him and things were great again...then he disappears and does not return my calls or text...I don't want to appear desperate by calling and texting...but I am not so sure what is up with this guy and it is making me nuts...he just calls, texts me like crazy and I do the same back with him...then he disappears...he told me he wants me on a serious level and a family...and unfortunately with that factor with him saying he wants a commitment we had sex...now I feel like a dummy for not waiting...so what is up with his attitude he said that it was okay to have sex and he would not have any other feelings for me but to feel closer to me on a serious level and wants to get married in the near future...I really have deep feelings for this guy and very hurt how is treating me now..I just ended a previous bad relationship prior to this guy and it seems I pick up dudes that are unavailable in the end...opinions? anyone? especially from the dudes...as I am in love with him...also feel I may be pregnant...and if so he won't call me back to talk to me..again I do not want to keep calling and texting him to call me as it is important...I do not want to say HEY I'm PG if that is the case...he also tells me he cannot talk long on the phone because his battery on his phone is low and does not maintain a charge...so one day I got upset with him and asked him if he was playing me for a fool because he seems lately to come up with excuses...my only concern is a baby may be on the way and how to deal with it...haven't told him as he isn't calling me he said he was going to call next day and has not...what should I tell him?
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With the guy calling you so much it doesn't seem like he is on that "player" mark... now keep in mind that doesn't exclude him - (Hang on) reading more! - He is definately playing a mind game to keep you wanting more... Out of what works vs what is "right to do" (with an exception if your pregnant) play a mind game and ignore his punk ass for a week ;)...
I have been in a situation where it is ironically similar - me calling non stop, then we stop talking - lots of texting happens, then we talk some more.. start to hang out... she wants me, but won't talk/call me... then out of no where she still wants me but disappears? I haven't talked to her for 2 weeks and she still calls me hun and sh*t.
Now the #1 thing to watch out for would be the fact of him being a player/pimp... these guys are tricky, for instance (relating to my story above->) The girl I like ended up doing something with one of my brothers friends at his house... I'm playing quiet like I don't know anything and I'm waiting to see if she will be truthful about it - cause my brother has nothing to gain from it and for the 19 years I've known him, he only lies about video games haha..
Well... in short - play with him a bit and see if you can find out things
- Is he busy with school?
- is he doing something sweet for his mom
- did he move on to another girl and end up playing you
- does he just want to keep you around for comfort
- are you just reacting harshly?
Think on it, see what you can come up with... DO NOT UNDER ANY MEANS talk to his friends- cause if nothing is happening he will find out and then its done for sure - at least it would be if I was the guy.
Peace and good luck~