I’ve seeing him for 10month. Mostly we are happy and we spend every weekend together.
However, sometimes I feel uncomfortable with my boyfriend’s relationships with his female friends. Because from where I stand, he is too nice to other girls. In addition, he seems to be hiding certain text messages and Facebook messages around me.Which makes me worry even more. So once in a while, we argue and I hate it. Lately, he made me promised not to get jealous anymore.
Last Saturday, he said that he have to work next Saturday. It was a bummer that we won’t to see ,but I thought it couldn’t be helped. After that, we watched TV and sitting on the sofa together. Then, he put his iphone on the table in front of us, and went to the restroom.
At the same time, his iphone received text messages. I happened to see the part of message and the name of sender. I noticed there was a contact with his female friend and the day they are supposed to meet. Like, “Let’s ,meet up next Saturday! Looking forward to seeing you!”
When he’s back, I tried to stay calm. However, he noticed I looked sad and asked “What’s up?” In the beginning, I said ”Nothing. Never mind.” But he kept asking about that. And then, he said” By any chance, did you see the text from my friend?” So, I told him I accidentally saw the texts and what I saw was shocked.
After saying, he looked at me awkwardly, and gave me a hug kindly. Then, I shed teers because I was sad. When he saw my tears, he pushed me away angrily, and said, ”You are not my girlfriend any more.”I told him I didn‘t even touch your phone and kept saying sorry to calm him down. But he started to ignore me.
In the end, we made up. But I’m still bit annoyed because he didn’t think he did anything wrong , and that I do all wrong. He said ”I’m always nice to you, but you broke the promise, so you are wrong.”
I understand the reason for lying because he didn’t want me to get jealous. But the fact that which he told me a lie made me sad……..Am I really wrong?
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I think he's doing something suspicious. The way he freaked out when you saw that text wasn't normal. A guys reaction should be no, of course I'm not doing anything with anyone else, its okay. He shouldn't try to break up with you. I think your best thing to do is really distance yourself, to be safe. See how he reacts. When he asks you what's going on just tell him that you love him but you're feeling really insecure ever since you saw that text. If he tries to dump you, let him -- it means that you were right and he's seeing her. If he freaks out and tries to make you feel better, then you're fine.0