My ex boyfriend at least liked me for a good four years before we started dating. We used to be really really good friends, in fact he was my best friend. I realized I liked him as well and we dated for a year and four months. He broke up with me about a month and a half ago and the time frame he started questioning what he felt for me would place it right around our graduation from high school. He broke up with me after a two week trip to Europe. He definitely still loved before he left for Europe. When he goes to college, do you think he'll find himself and find me again? He really honestly wants to still be my friend and cannot see me in his future more than that. I know this is really true because we have a very good mutual friend. I know that what we had was real love and anybody could see it. We were able to open each other up in ways that nobody else had as well. When we were dating he said the one thing that I didn't have to worry about was him breaking up with me. He's not a liar and he says he cares for me, just not in the same way he used to. Do you think he may come back?
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Well it's quite possible that he wants to get his wild side out. Plenty of people want that wild college experience, and he won't get it if he's in a relationship. This is pretty common, people who date in high school get a bit worried that they won't get to find out what else is out there if they date through college and so they break up. It's much healthier in the long run if the relationship does continue eventually, because they were able to get that urge out of them, as opposed to dating through college and then regretting never having tried other things. When people are young they get restless, they want to experience new things. All of the people I know who dated in high school and ended up married broke up at one point and then happened to get back together later, they didn't plan it.
So yes, he very well might come back eventually, but I wouldn't wait around for it. Put yourself out there, try new things. If it's meant to be, it will be. But don't waste your life waiting for him to live his.
I know it's hard to hear, I was in what I thought was a pretty serious relationship in high school. But the large majority of high school relationships don't last, and they aren't really meant to. You're young, emotions come and go easily and infatuation is often mistaken for love.
So stay hopefull if you really think this guy is the one for you, but don't let that hold you back from living. If he is the one for you, it will work itself out eventually.
Hope this helps. Feel free to msg/reply if you need anything else. Good luck!1