Should most things come naturally?
Maybe I didn't phrase that well... but I am seeing this guy... he pretty much asked me what I liked about past guys I've dated.
I told him I liked the guys who opened doors (some of the time, not always), who were kind of manly man kind of guys, who liked sports, were more aggressive than passive, who prefer to be dominant int he bedroom...
He kind of only started doing these things just recently... after I told him. I don't want him to change for me... idk, is it bad that I told him what I really like and how he's doing it?
I guess that it is hard to describe... It's not that he's trying too hard... it's just that it seems like he's being a certain way to get me to like him more. He knows nothing about sports nor really cares and now he's telling me he's going to have a fantasy football team.
He prefers to be the submissive one in the bedroom and lately it's like he's trying to be what I want...?
So is it bad? I've found that on past dates with other guys that I usually avoid answering this question so they don't pretend to be someone they're not. This guy doesn't seem to mind, I don't think. Although he does seem to be trying a bit hard to impress me.
I can't pinpoint it. Any advice?
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ok ... differentiation needed:
is he trying to change who he is?
or does he just try to adapt a bit?
does he give up his own interests or is there just something he added?
does he still have preferences?
in some cases, like when it comes to bedroom preferences, I'd try to play any role my girl would ask me to play (or tells me that she would like that)
it's not that I give up who I am or what my preferences are ... it's just something I do for her ...
other things like opening doors, etc ... that's something some girls like, and others feel belittled ... if my girl tells me she likes that, then OK ... mental note ... open doors for her ... if not ...
that's just showing someone that you care... notice / remember preferences and follow them accorsingly
on the other hand ... if he completely changes himself for a role ... that's nothing that will go well for long ...0
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