The guy I am dating is intelligent, has a great job, good looking, respecttable- he's 50 and had his share of girlfriend. he's told me about them- how they were all crazy, one was a stripper, one was 20 years younger than him, one was on drugs, one was married-, most didn't have jobs or cars and used him.
I don't understand why a guy that has his stuff together would go out with girls like this.
Im not like any of these previous girls and wonder what he sees in me if he likes these other kinds of women?
so how about the last part of my question, what does he see in me if he likes these other kinds of women?
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I think it's because guys are way too motivated by a girl's body to the point where they don't excuse obvious facts about the girl that make dating her more trouble than it's worth. Strippers are hard to date for example because a guy wanting a committed relationship is typically going to have trouble sleeping at night knowing she's showing off her body to people. The other situations you described are just flat out obvious but I don't know as to when he found out about the drugs, or the marriage, and so on. He could have immediately dumped them upon finding out those things. But as for something like not having a car, it was his choice to put up with that. I dated a girl with no car thinking she was going to get one but once she told me it was gonna be 2 years I dumped her after some arguing. It wasn't tragic but I gave it a chance.
Thing is, finding a girl who has her stuff together is actually tough. Part of the problem lies within the fact that people's attraction to negativity is so high. Plenty of girls do not want a stable relationship even though they say so because once things are stable, they get bored.
As for him choosing these kinds of girls, maybe he doesn't feel like he's good enough so his sympathy gets the best of him and he gives them a chance. Girls do the same thing and it's why so many guys think that treating a girl like trash is how you win a girl over.1