It just feels so hopeless right now. I barely even have any friends, and it's clear that I don't identify with others my age very well. It's like I'm just "there" but unlike everyone else my age, nobody really cares to socialize with me or get to know me despite my constant efforts to reach out to them, when the timing is correct. I'm not one to force myself on others and know people's boundaries in terms of what to do or say, depending on how well I know them.
I'm not sure what I can do at this point. I've never been a hit with the ladies, even when my heart has always been in the right place, with good intent, and I've always tried to be a good friend to all. But again, it's just like everyone else looks like they have so many friends, and are constantly dating within their groups of friends and beyond.
It's like they're "apart" of something that I'm not apart of, if that makes sense. Maybe I'm just not cut out for dating? That's what it feels like, but then what am I cut out for? When can things change for me, because I'm dying for change to come about in my life? :(
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Well not knowing you personally it can be very hard to say this will help you! I mean for all we know you could be the hotty that everyone is afraid to ask out and you being friendly only make you even more of a too good to be true... Personally it took me years to figure out anyone was hitting on me and now at 23, now that I have finally started figuring it out, I constantly think I'm the last girl to get hit on in a place, it takes me about a month to realize which puts me in a weird place of constant well guys liked me a month ago what am I doing wrong now? Lol maybe one day ill work my way up to tht guy right in front of me is hitting on me right now! This could be the case for you too lol
Another option is whatsoever you mean by nice? Are you all about her all the time? Cause that's a lot of pressure dude! Only butchy self obsessed girls who you don't want to date anyway like a guy who is all about them all the time. I want you to have a life so we have something to talk about, so I know you care because you can break away from that when you know it really matters to me! I want you to have time with your guys so I can have time with my girls!
Another thought I had while reading your post was you feel like everyone is a part of something your not I thought of how many times a friend of mine has gotten into something she didn't want to because the guy was so pushy! It meet ends well the further it goes the worse it is and sometimes it is really hard especially in a friend situation. I've actually been there, I went back to visit a old home of mine and I saw an old friend-ish. We were both on two opposite sides of the same circle if you know what I mean, he and I never talked but apparently he liked me because when I said hi to him, he apologized because he was too drunk to place me but he knew my eyes because he could never forget my eyes, he knew them (it was a strange statement that never really left me) and then he kissed me and tried to take me home. Which I turned down even though I knew he was a really good guy and actually had a little crush on him when I first met him, but for me I wasn't there at that time I was reliving my past and was going through some stuff. The next day he messagede and apologized which I was very accepting about and he asked me to get together. We talked things out and he was understanding of where I was and I still think he is a very sweet fun guy who any girl would be lucky to have, but I couldn't be that girl, not then at least. But if I hadn't known what I wanted in life or been an open person I would have gone along with it... My point being you may be missing on this pushy part of relationships but that may not be a bad thing and also it could just be a timing thing you maybe just have bad luck at timing...
Anyway the point is I can't tell you when your timing will be right, but if your genuine don't stop being genuine! I'm running out of space so I hope this helps :) best of luck xxxx0