My boyfriend of went out drinking yesterday. We had some disagreement two days ago.
He first texted me if I was having a bad week back then, which I told him I did before. He then texted me "I hope your week gets better. feel better kid, please be happy" I was happy at that moment because I have been a bit upset since I felt like he didn't care about me that much, which kinda lead to the disagreement in the first place, and I didn't know he was drinking. But then 2 min later, he texted me "I am drunk! surprise!" I got upset immediately because I felt like he only said that because he's drunk. He never really says affectionate things anymore when he's sober. And then procceed to a lot more drunk text which I chose to just say "wow. 8pm and you are drunk" and ignored most of the rest. He then said how I was ignoring his text, getting revenge, how he's not that drunk but drunk enough to harass me and judge my response.
Later that night, I texted him saying I thought he really meant it when he told me to by happy but turned out he was just drunk. He then said "drama queen, I am not that drunk" I told him I wasn't trying to pick a fight or getting revenge as you said. He was like "relax kid"
He's not really affectionate when he's sober, only a few affectionate texts and acts from him when he's under the effect of alcohol. So it bothers me a bit, since I feel like he doesn't mean it when he says affectionate things when he's drunk
Did I really overreact?
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i think you overreacted a bit btu at the same time he didn't handle stuff well. he was clearly drunk not "not that drunk" but real drunk because most guys don't text that hardcore unless booze is really in play.
it seems to me that you should never start a fight or question a person's motivations when they are drunk because oyu are not going to get a rational or reasonable response. you wait til they're sober and you've had time to process your feelings and then effectively and non-confrontationally express them.
it seems to me that you want a person who expresses their feelings, that's fine. if this guy won't do that unless wasted maybe you should re-evaluate if he isthe guy for oyu. you need ot have a productive conversation in which you explain to him how you feel (lack of affection, expressing of feelings) and say you want more and are willing to work with him if he commits to doing so. if you've already ahd these convos then maybe you're just with a guy who isn't going to do that and then you've got to make the decision as to whether or not he is the guy for you0