In my recent efforts to become more social at college, I ended up meeting a guy at a party a few weeks ago. We talked about velociraptors and space suits and any other which topic that normal people would find interesting and somehow ended up making out. Naturally, before I left the party, and exchanging of numbers took place.
He called me a couple of days later and asked to hang out at a midnight event on campus, and of course, I obliged. We ended up hanging out there until wayyy late at night, until eventually it was 3 am and the both of us were too tired for more conversation. Rather than walking back to my dorm and waking my roommate up, I decided to crash at his place. I made it clear that I wouldn't be "putting out" that night, since I'm not that type of girl, and also because I could tell that he was the type of guy who had girls over alllll the time. So he simply smiled and said, "fine with me", and we ended up just cuddling and kissing for the next 10 hours.
Naturally, our 'hanging out and sleep overs' routine continued and progressed. As in, this same event (+ more physical activity) was repeated several times over the following weeks. A couple of days ago, he told me that I could call him up whenever I wanted to chill (since he always has to contact me), and I just told him that I would have asked him, but I didn't want to come off as a Stage 5 clinger or scare him off by seeming too attached. He laughed and told me that it was okay and said "yeah, don't get attached early on".
Important information: he's made it pretty flat out clear that he thinks I'm a dork and I'm not his type at all. Not looks-wise or actions-wise or anything. He has never taken me on a date or even attempted to. And this is not the kind of guy who would be too shy to ask. In fact, he says goodbye by saying "see you around" or "I'll probably call you or something in a few days". But here's the thing: this guy kisses my forehead and my cheek and my shoulders and everything while I sleep. He brushes my hair away from my face and just looks me in the eyes and smiles. The other night when I woke up, he was just stroking my face and my back and my neck with his fingertips and holding me close. Physically, he acts the closest to someone who has fallen for someone else that I have ever seen.
I have never had a guy act like this and I have NO idea what to think. Also, I really really really don't want to have the whole "what are we doing right now?" conversation with him because if he thinks that I want a relationship or something or that I'm reading into this, bye bye free cuddles and back rubs.
So yeah, if you read all of this, do you think there could actually be something there or are some guys just sweet like that?
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A couple of questions for you:
In the 10 hours of cuddling and kissing that first time, how undressed did you both get? And how far did things progress?
When you say things progressed physically over the following weeks, how far did they progress and how quickly? How often were you doing whatever it was you were doing?
*LMFAO@"Stage 5 clinger!" Well played!*
Lastly, what's his story with other girls? Do you tend to see him and stay with him most weekends? Or is he out with other girls?
Could be something real here or it could be FWB--we'll need some more info to know for sure.
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