I am an intelligent, respectful, charming, and laid back guy; and yet women always seem to pass me by. I have a great job with good benefits, I have a bachelors degree, and an associates. I plan on furthering my education by applying to purdue. I'm no slouch in my social, or academic life I am always striving to work on my flaws be they physical, emotional, spiritual etc. I am a very understanding an empathetic individual.
Basically every girl I have ever taken an interest in has always turned me down; and that is not an exaggeration. Some just pretended to like me. Most of them have called me ugly or other horrible things. That was high school and I got over it. I'm in college now and girls still seem to act the same. They act like they are interested and once I start to show interest after talking to them for awhile and try to ask them out they just blow me off or say that they have a boyfriend. I can't talk to my family about this as they ALWAYS ridicule me and say that there is something wrong with me if women keep rejecting me, this of course hurts like all hell because if I can't go to them or count on them; who can I go to? My brother is the opposite of me he will sweet talk women just to get them into bed, go after girls who are in relationships get them into bed and not look back all because he can. He is 23 and I am 20. I'm more of the guy who is a gentleman but nowhere near a doormat or pushover. It actually gets worse because guys are approaching me and telling me I'm handsome. I mean no offense but I am not interested in men at all. This just makes me ask more questions like "WTF can a dude tell me in handsome but a girl has never ever told me that."
I am at a cross roads where I can try to take out this girl after she comes back from Marine boot camp, or just forget about dating completely. She is20 My biggest fear is that once she leaves she will be wooed by some buff dude, and forgets all about me when she comes back. I text her and she only replies when I text her, she never texts first. I said I wanted to take her out and she just replied "Huh" in a text conversation. I'm guessing that means she doesn't like me? All of this rejection has hardened my heart and thickened my skin. I can honestly say that I could be fine on my own indefinitely, but there is this small part of me that yearns for me to try once more; like a small beacon of hope. If I choose the former I know I won't regret it an ask "I wonder what it would've been like". Women, what do you think I should do? More importantly what is wrong with me? Why am I NEVER given a chance?
Please don't tell me that I am 20 and that my life has just started and all of that BS. I refuse to be one of those guys that's like 35-40 years old successful and ends up with a broken shell of a woman who requires me to take care of her and her 8 kids. I am a nice guy but I am not that nice. If anyone would like to know more details feel free to message me, as long as you give helpful insight.
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I don't know what kind of girls you hang around who would call you ugly... I mean if a girl isn't interested, she should be trying to let you down gently and most will make up some kinder excuse like they have a boyfriend or will be honest and say they don't think there's chemistry between the two of you, or just go cold and not reply to anything.
From the sounds of it, your approach and flirting is a bit off so I would look into that and figure out what you are doing wrong. Maybe ask your brother for some advice, just because he's a womanizer doesn't mean that you would have to be. The point is though he knows how to talk to girls and how to behave to get them interested him him so I'm sure he'd be willing to help out and give some pointers2