I've been hurting myself for years, and I have absolutely no intention on stopping. I never talk about it in any way, shape, or form, and I keep the wounds/scars covered (unless I'm going for a run). It's just my little thing that I do every once in a while that makes me feel better. Would the fact that while I would continue to hurt myself, and the person I'm dating would never see it until it's completely healed, would it keep people from ever wanting to be in a relationship with me?
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I would have an issue with it, as it seems to be an example of self-loathing (or some other deep psychological issue). Not that there aren't other examples of self-harm which are not as obvious such as overeating, or even some that are invisible such as mental self-abuse. However, self-injury is perhaps the most graphic and therefore the most difficult to take for a significant other. Most people want the person they love to have a positive self-image, and would be very distressed to see that the person they love is hurting herself/himself. The person self-injuring may actually feel some type of pleasure in the act, while the boyfriend/girlfriend would only feel pain--even from just seeing the scars. This does not mean I would immediately reject a girlfriend if I found out she was hurting herself, but I would feel compelled to help her stop doing it. If she flatly refused to stop it would force a difficult decision on whether to stay with her...
Given that you state you have no intention to stop I should probably not continue, but I feel I have to recommend that you talk to a psychologist or counselor. They could help you to understand why this activity makes you feel better, when for most people it has only negative connotations. They could also suggest some other behaviors which might achieve the same result without self-injury...0