Okay so I met this girl on a dating site. We talked for about a month (30 total messages or so), and then we went out last night. Well, we just went to her apartment and talked for 3 hours. The first two hours were great! She opened up and told me something very personal...she said not many people know about it at all. I was supportive of it and said I'd be there for her. But then the date went downhill for the last hour. I became terrible at holding a fun conversation, said some awkward/random things, and it just wasn't the same. After I left her place, I texted her when I got back home saying basically "thanks for a fun night...it was nice to finally meet!"
But she didn't respond :/ however, there's confusing/good news too. I sent her a friend request on Facebook two days ago. She accepted it last night after the date. But also, she was on the online dating site after the date too which I was hoping she wouldn't be :/
What do you all think? Do I have a shot at another date even though the second half of the date was a little bad? Or does the bad ending ruin my shot?
- Good shot another date.Vote A
- You blew your chance at dating. She's now only a friend at best.Vote B
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A lot of guys get a 2nd date, even though the girl isn't really into them. Your whole story sounded like this girl is your girlfriend and you've been dating her for years. This was terrible behavior on your part! She was pretty bad herself. Just a massive waste of time. YOU know better! You have become one of her other girlfriends. You have a serious case of Puppy Syndrome.
Until you start employing the traits, and behavior that causes every woman's curiosity, romantic interest to spark, and rise in a man...you will forever have experiences as you described here. Your belief's for what causes a woman to fall for a man is way off. You let your ego and high interest in a girl, get in the way of success with women. You don't have a problem with looks, or meeting women. Your problem is only yourself. The good news is, you can change and fix your behavior toward women. It's not easy, its not a quick fix, it takes a lot of work, and self control. Sad thing is, I don't think you are willing to change, or to help yourself at this point.0